Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Reckless Tongues part 3 - our love/hate relationship with criticism

We often have a love/hate relationship with criticism. We almost always hate the unsolicited criticism we receive from others. So much so that we often put much thought into how unfounded and unnecessary it is, and how wrong the people who inflict it upon us are. Then repay that criticism with criticism. For we can plainly see this evil in others.

However, we do not put nearly as much thought into our own criticism of other people. We seem to think that our own harsh words are perfectly justified. We may even expect them to be thankful for our criticism, if our intention is correction. It always seems so easy to discern the right choices for others, when we are on the outside looking in. If only we could step outside ourselves and see ourselves as others experience us. Since we are often blind to just how hurtful our words can be when we think our intentions are good, even when our tactics are no different from the harsh words we endure from others. Many cannot see just how guilty we are of the crime of criticism that we accuse others of.  If only criticism were as easy to spot in ourselves as it is in others. If only we considered and heeded what the Bible teaches us about proper correction. Then it wouldn’t be such a prominent and socially acceptable force as it is today.

You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. Now we know that God’s judgment against those who do such things is based on truth. So when you, a mere human being, pass judgment on them and yet do the same things, do you think you will escape God’s judgment? Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, forbearance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance? - Romans 2:1-4

With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness.  Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.  Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water. -James 3:9-12


someone accusing someone of criticism as they themselves criticize another
Hypocritical tongue



Next time A Biblical model for correction


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